I like reading studies that come out about relationships. Some are kind of BS, especially when it's a poll of say 100 people. I mean, is that really reflective of the population as a whole? But some come out that are just plain ridiculous. The University of Texas researchers who led it did four national surveys of young college-goers aged 18-23, and found that when a woman is successful, she has less of a chance of finding a good partner.

Case in point: I was reading an article in TheAwl (awesome site, btw) and came across a recent study from my home state of Texas. Really? At 23? Here's what one of the researchers says: In American colleges, 57 percent of students are women and 43 percent are men. That's a radical reversal of where we were 30 or 40 years ago. That's a terrible environment to try to get men to commit. How do you compete with other women to attract men?

Presuming that people are attracted to people who are like them educationally, it means looking for secure relationships becomes challenging because the sex ratio is so imbalanced. The women wind up competing with each other — not necessarily to marry because they're not interested in marriage at that point — but they compete with each other to attract men. Well, sex is the way to get his attention. Neither one. In fact, we're just beginning.

I'm just saying women have had extreme successes — which is fantastic! — it's just those successes don't translate to success in the relationship field. I don't think it's in women's interest to play the field for a long period of time. It can get depressing, not only about their relationships but to see the pool of men in their 30s who are available. My advice is if you find somebody who you love and who loves you, make it work, whatever it takes!